1. Do something that has nothing to do with the way you currently feel. In order to stop being trapped by my anger with someone’s verbal or nonverbal behavior, I wave at them and say “Hey! Have a great day!” and move on. In order to keep up the happy or neutral feeling, I will talk about something funny on a TV show or video on the internet. Or, I can talk about what I am doing for school. Any subject helps, because I usually don’t engage in angry activities, so there is plenty to go on. If being teased is the source of my anger, then doing a happy or neutral thing will blow the teaser’s mind. Try it!
2. Take a deep breath and count backwards from ten to one. Anger intensity has a brief life. Counting gives the emotion time to die down. In most cases, the source of anger does not deserve my first reaction. There is always a chance to deal with the source of anger in a more rational way. Problem-solving needs a cool head anyway.
3. Train everyone in the family on strategies 1 and 2.
Thank you for reading!
David Peace, Author of Jungle Pack: Therapy Workbook and Journal