1. Prepare ahead of time for meltdowns. All human beings have a point of tolerance for how long they will go without something of a personal desire. For a long ride in the car, have on hand, at least one thing you know a child likes. Make sure the electronics are charged up before the trip. Trying to instill discipline on the go and by sheer will, only leads to a battle. Adult men have the same level of tolerance as children. So prepare for this. Pay attention to what he likes. This is why I created “Jungle Pack: Therapy Workbook and Journal”. People are attached to their likes and dislikes.
2. Leave the tension zone. Simply leave the room. There is a power struggle between two angry people that creates tension. Do not stand toe-to-toe with him (or her), trying to reason or match the level of screaming. When you establish the message of not participating in such behavior, the child or teenager will have less power to create tension. Screaming is only an effective tool when a person accomplishes a reaction from others.
3. Train everyone in the house on strategies 1 and 2.