I can leave it any time. I can leave the cozy little hole and know the hammer is nothing but a hologram made of somebody’s misguided attempt to control their own little corner of the world.
With the support of a third-party (professional counselor), I can begin to differentiate between other people’s beliefs and my own. My goals are different from other people’s goals. And I can come to be aware of the fact that any sort of belief is temporary. It only lives to the extent of being fed.
The fitness of a life which I want to have is dependent on my own actions. What I do to get out from under the hammer of a bully target cycle (which is organic and changeable) is to simply step onto my track and stay on it day after day. I wave “bye bye” to the critical remarks which get softer as my purpose is being fed .
For any remaining doubts to stay small, I look at page 46 in Jungle Pack: Therapy Workbook and Journal:
The Daily Do It No Matter What assignment:
First part: My goal is to___________________________by (date)________________.
Second part: Three things I can do on a daily basis which are related to preparing myself for this are:
Three things that I am thinking will get in the way of doing these daily tasks are:
Three ways I can set up my environment for a successful doing of these tasks are: