Have you ever caught yourself trying to coax meaning from a child’s actions? He or she is making goofy sounds and throwing things while you ask 20 million questions. Your head is bulging with combinations of words and the stress that comes with not finding the right ones. The child in this situation has all the power.
It’s easy for adults to think we have to panic and try to fix the tantrum. Children depend on us for quite a few things, but let’s not forget their increasing ability to speak actual words. If the teacher says that the kid has learned to say and spell a certain list of words, then most likely he hasn’t suddenly forgot.
There’s nothing abusive in the action of saying “Use your words” and then taking some time to do what you want to do, before revisiting the situation.